Lynn Calat, NP
In our field, loss is an inevitable part of the work we do, but it is often met with little space for grieving. The sadness of losing a patient can be overwhelming, yet we are quick to move on to the next crisis. In doing so, we may overlook the cumulative impact of trauma, which can lead to burnout and emotional depletion. Without time to process our own grief, we risk losing the ability to fully help our patients navigate their own losses.
Historically, our education and training have provided little focus on bereavement care or self-care after death. We tend to prioritize patient needs over our own emotional well-being, neglecting the sorrow that follows each loss. However, we cannot continue to care for others without first caring for ourselves.
Wellness and healing are now being integrated into SGO educational programs, recognizing the importance of processing grief. As Kubler-Ross (1969) said, grief, though painful, can awaken us to new possibilities and deeper self-awareness. Lesser (2006) reminds us that “at the end of a dark night of the soul is the beginning of a new life.” Grief, though difficult, can serve as a powerful catalyst for growth, helping us open ourselves to new love and deeper understanding.
My own practice of mindful grieving includes self-care routines like meditation, yoga, exercise, and connection with community. Just last week, at the Brooklyn TEAL Run, I was reminded of the strength that comes from being surrounded by others who care — for women, for wellness, and for one another. Watching community in action reminded me that healing can be a group effort.
For me, acknowledging and making space for grief allows for healing and growth. Learning practices that can renew ourselves, helps us deepen our ability to show up for ourselves and for those we serve.
Lynn Calat, NP, is a nurse practitioner at New York University Langone Health in New York, NY.
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